It’s one thing to have friends of one’s own. That’s normal and healthy. It’s quite another thing to have friends who are actively anti-social to one’s wife. The question you’re asking your husband is “why is this OK with you?” Even if it seems inconsequential to him, he should recognize the way this whole situation made you feel.

A couple was going to invite the letter writer and husband to their party – but then other friends said don’t.

My husband is good enough to help them out whenever they need it, but we’re not good enough friends to be invited to a party?