Tension: The funniest person in a friend group is often the one carrying the most unacknowledged pain, because their humor creates an illusion of resilience that prevents anyone from checking on them.
You may have seen the term toxic resilience being used by life coaches, human resource professionals, and on social media. Such a term may be an oxymoron, sort of like saying "disgusting beauty" or ...
The word resilience can be perplexing. Does it mean remaining calm when faced with stress? Bouncing back quickly? Growing from adversity? Is resilience an attitude, a character trait or a skill set?